How to be Friends with your enemy??

Everyone had an enemy when they were growing up. But some can tell you today that in the end, they became friends. . But of course it will not happen within a blink of an eye. Everything takes time. Here are some tips on How to be friends with your enemy:

 1 Determine why that person was your enemy. Did you do something bad to him/her or a close friend of that person? Or vice versa. Prepare yourself to apologize, even if you don't feel like everything was completely your fault.

2.   Approach your enemy and tell them that you want to resolve the issues that you two have together. Apologize, and ask to start over. Explain to that person why you don't want to hate. If you can, try and talk out the problems you had in the past. Tell this person that it isn't worth it to feel the wrath. You could be having fun together, instead of hating, ignoring and fighting each other. Dont blame him/her and manage to talk calmly.

3.  Get his/her number or Give him/her  your phone number or email address, and tell them that if they ever need something, or someone to talk to, that they can call you. By doing this, you're letting them know that you no longer want to fight. Do not offer your phone number if you feel they may misuse it.

4.   Let this person know that you are sincere. This can't be done completely through talking—actions speak louder than words. Smile when you see the person when you see them, and go out of your way to be nice. Don't get discouraged if their behavior stays the same or gets worse at first—it's likely that they're suspicious of your suddenly nice nature. Let them know they can trust you by continuing to be nice to them and of course don’t pretend but try. If you don't feel as though a talk with your enemy is necessary, or you want to be on friendly terms but not necessarly friends, you can start by just smiling and being nice to them when you see them in the halls. This will show your enemy that you no longer hold a grudge, and hopefully they will follow your lead.

5.  Prove to them that you worth to be their friend. Be there for your enemy. It could sound like something cheesy, but if your enemy is getting bullied, prove yourself a friend and defend them! If this does not earn you a friend, it will at least earn you the respect of your opponent. Of course, never intentionally start fights.

6.   Initiate hang out time. Invite your enemy to your home to play video games, go shoot pool, go out for a lunch/dinner, go shopping, or see a movie. Anything that might tell your enemy that you are not a threat. Adjust to your friendship slowly—remember that this is a new friendship, and thus that you should not treat your ex enemy like your best friend. But If you don't feel comfortable by going anywhere with your enemy alone, let them know that a few of your friends will be there also.

7.  Trust your guts if they tell you to be cautious. Test the waters before allowing yourself to get too close. However, being cautious doesn't mean acting cold. Rather than telling him or her your deepest darkest secret, tell them something that you don't care if it gets spread around. See if they tell others. If so, maintain a friendly distance until you know you can trust them.

An enemy is really a stranger, If you don't hang around with your enemies how will you know them? As time passes on you, your enemy can make amends and become your great friends. :)